I use a programmable watch winder that allows adjustment of the start time for winding, turns per day, direction of rotation, etc. And if I notice that a power reserve is already 'full' I manually turn off that specific watch winding module. All of this helps prevent any chance of so called 'wear and tear' from excessive winding.
The other reason I have my watches in a winder as I think it's a great way of proudly displaying them, and there's something mesmerising about seeing them all as a collection spinning around. It allows me to admire them all at once.
In regards to a perpetual, my own personal view is THE point of a perpetual is that it keeps an accurate date without any adjustment. But if I had to manually adjust the date (if I hadn't worn it in 7 days, which does occasionally happen) it seems to 'defeat the purpose'. So for me I've created my own logic/system for using a winder...
Good luck with your decision. I don't think there's a right or wrong. The only wrong is if you don't wear your watches enough!
Regards,
Thang